Genderlecturing
So, the other day I was watching American TV and i saw a famous little man called Donald Trump, now, we all know who that is, but as he was arguing what he would do for the states of America, it reminded me of the many articles that are telling women around the globe that they can't use certain language because it's demeaning itself, surely that is a bit hypocritical? Personally, I think segregating genders through language is demeaning itself.
Tabloids have been coming out all over the place and online articles have been 'just' storming the internet telling women about the app 'Just Not Sorry' which they should be using.
Now, apparently, this is because women have been using too much hedging in their emails and other pieces of writing, such as words like 'just', 'sorry' and 'actually' which are 'actually' demeaning because the woman has to apologise, justify and surprise herself with everything she writes.
Lets be honest though, if you're not going to apologise for bothering someone you're a bit of an asshole anyway, but men do it too, in a recent investigation i did at my college, men tended to hesitate and use more politeness facework than women did, and they both seemed as polite as the other.
When emailing a co-worker, using 'sorry' and 'just' would be appropriate anyway as doing this would make the author seem a lot more respectful of the receiver, even though it's not keeping up appearances and being assertive like a manager or boss should, it still would be nice if positive face acts weren't used constantly against you, you just wouldn't want to do it would you?
If anything makes a difference to how you speak it would be the social background you were brought up in or the class you are, higher class people from a posh background are going to be polite and they will apologise and talk to you like a human being and a lower class person with a rude family background are more likely to take this on and be rude to you, making this statement to be a lot more about consensual status theory more than the deficit model.
Whether you're male or female you should always be polite to people when asking for a favour as it's simply manners, and they don't cost a thing.
So the articles out there saying its 'just' not right to say 'sorry' can 'just' shove it, and I'm not 'actually' sorry, nobody should be judged for the way they speak or what they have between their legs.
I agree with Deborah Cameron and if you want to find out more about this situation, look her up and find out why women shouldn't demean their language so that they 'sound like men.'